The good Lucian men are few and far between. I am yet to find one that doesn’t lie… and not to mention cheat. I am now looking for an overseas guy who perhaps would not have already slept with a basket-full of Lucian women.
The good guys are usually the ones who end up with the bad women and the other way around. Nonetheless I gave up on these guys. All singing and dancing the same tune and beat. If you know what I mean. You start a relationship with them only to find out they have wives, girlfriends, jabals, and so much baggage and skeletons hidden.
In as much as I want to get married again, I am scared of these men. I did date twice and tried to find love again but both times end up the same. They were liars. I picked up my broken pieces, mending them again as before, and choose to be vigilant and more alert. What is your advice Willie? Help!
Alone and lonely.
Dear Alone and Lonely: Wow! Eight years and still can’t find the right man. That is something, isn’t it?
I do understand.
In my previous letter, I expressed similar sentiments: a lot of men here are lying too much. If you believe that looking for love overseas is the best option, then by all means. However, bear in mind, you have no-good men in every country, and even bigger players.
However, I have known a lot of St. Lucian women who have found love overseas or with foreigners, and vice versa. At the end of the day, if we exhaust options, we have to make more options until we get into the zone we aspire to be.
And after a divorce, I am very sure you’re even more cautious. You would want to ensure your next choice makes a lifetime of sense.
I do agree with you: a lot of the men here sleep around. And don’t leave the women out. A lot of the women have been around too. It is such a small place, that it is not hard to bump into someone your girlfriend or boyfriend have slept with before. That’s the downside of dating in small countries. Either you accept it or you don’t. And even if the person does not have a lot of ex-partners, you will surely bump into the one or two, or few, he/she had slept with.
So as I said, do what’s best for you. If you’ve searched far and wide in St. Lucia and you’re not getting what you want, the door is wide open. Broaden your horizons. Nothing is wrong with that. Try online dating. Travel, meet new people, network more. However, continue to have an open mind, and DO NOT let your guard down with foreigners either.
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